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UK Swingers – A guide to getting started

There are many myths about swinging, but the reality is UK swingers come in many forms, there is no stereotypical person, you can’t look at someone in the street and say ‘they are swingers’.  The beauty of the UK swinging lifestyle is that swingers come in many shapes and sizes, ages and from every background imaginable.

Principally swinging is about being able to express yourself sexually, without inhibition, its about the freedom to enjoy others as well as exploring your own boundaries and most of all its about enjoying yourself without restrictions and being in a relaxed environment with others who share your views.

If you and your partner have been discussing the possibility of enhancing your sex life through swinging, but are unsure about how to proceed or whether it is really right for you, here is some information to help you make the right decision for YOU

Getting Started

• If you are a couple make sure before you decide to get into the swinging scene that it is something that you BOTH want to do.  If you are in any way unsure, it may not be right for you.  You may need to explore further before taking the plunge (see below for info on where to meet swingers)

• Set your rules straight away before you even begin meeting other swingers.  This is fundamental to the very existence of your relationship.  All couples who swing have their rules and they vary from couple to couple.  When you first start out make sure you set a level that you are BOTH comfortable with, even if one of you wants more.  Once you start meeting other people you will find that your rules will change, but always discuss any changes/fantasies before putting them into practice! 

• Websites, with chat rooms are always a good place to start.  This helps you to connect with people who are either interested in, or are already in the swinging lifestyle.  Chat with others, find out about their experiences and how they got started.  Not only are Swinging Chat rooms a source of good information they are good fun and offer you the chance to make that first potential meet.







• Swinging Clubs are also a good place to try, you can go along and watch others, without participating or if you feel comfortable, join in.  It may be worth finding out first which clubs are good, because you don’t want your first experience at a club to be a disaster.  Again we would suggest you got into chat rooms and find out from others what they think of certain clubs etc, get advice from experienced swingers about where to go and where not to go.  There are also sites on the internet which review the clubs across the country so that is also a good source to try.

Your First Meet

• It’s always best to decide how and where you would like your first swingers meet to be.  Undoubtedly you will be nervous, so you need to decide where you will feel the most comfortable.  Some people prefer to meet up in a pub for some drinks and see if everyone gets on, and if you do then take it further.  Other people prefer to meet in their own house or at a hotel.  It’s up to you to decide where when and how. 
  
  


• Always talk your swinging rules through with the other couple or single guy/girl so that before any play starts everyone knows how far it can go.  This doesn’t have to be a serious discussion it can simply be bought up in the conversation over drinks.  It prevents any awkward situations later.

First Time at a Club

• Make sure you research the club and read any reviews first, or get personal recommendations prior to going to a swinging club.  Most swinging clubs require you to book in advance, and most require some form of membership, therefore make
  sure you read their website carefully so you are aware of exactly what is required of you.
  
  
• Take time to read the rules of the swinging club, they all differ slightly but the main point remains the same RESPECT.  This is probably the most important word in swinging.
  
  
• Private swingers parties can be daunting, because all the people you have connected with either over the internet or through other sources are coming together to meet for real.  Some people may not be as you expected and you may feel a little disappointed.
  
  

 

• Swingers Parties can be excellent fun but equally they could turn out to be quite a pressurised environment if you are new.  By this I mean that you may not know what is expected of you.

 

Who gets invited to a swinger’s party?

Private swingers parties tend to be mainly a couple only affair, however the couple who organise that party may well invite a few select single males who they trust to respect people’s wishes.  Most other couples, even if they don’t participate in playing with single males will respect the decision of the party host and trust their judgement.

Parties held at swingers clubs can vary.  Some swingers clubs have nights where singles are welcome, and other nights where only couples are allowed entry.  It is up to individuals which nights they think they would prefer attending.




 

What are you likely to gain from swinging?

As with anything there are good and bad within everything that you do.  But swinging can have some great benefits,   it allows you to express yourself sexually in ways you have never done before.  It allows you to explore your sexuality or bi side, when before it was only ever a fantasy.  If you are entering swinging for the right reasons it will strengthen your relationship with your partner and increase your communication with each other, because to be a swinger you have to have total trust and respect with each other.









Swinging in the UK is growing in popularity and there are more and more people taking to the lifestyle.  UK Swingers are people who are sexually liberated, open and relaxed in the lifestyle they enjoy, but swinging can take on many different forms.  Every UK swingers take on swinging is different, some people just like to be watched, some UK swinging couples only like to play with other couples and other UK swingers enjoy group sex with both couples and single guys/girls.




What does remain consistent is the need for some good old fashioned common sense about what is and what isn’t acceptable within the swinging community. Most UK swingers already know these things but if you are thinking of getting involved in the swinging scene here are some guidelines to becoming a successful swinger and getting the most out of this fantastic lifestyle.